26 November 2012 ~ 22 Comments

“10 Ways…” Re-Mastered #3: Don’t Serve Time, Make Time Serve You!

See the introduction to this series here: Letting The Chips Fall Where They May

Click Here to check out tip #1: You is a very Fluid Concept”

And here for tip #2: “Man the FUCK up!”

In the original 2008 series, tip #3 was Learn That Japanese (If you’ve never read it, here’s a link) where I advise the foreigner taking up residence here in Japan to learn the language spoken by the natives here… Which is kinda like advising someone moving to Alaska to look into getting themselves some warm snow boots and snow tires.

Yes, it was a rather long (entertaining and informative) overstatement of the obvious…at least it’s obvious to most people. Some people think they can skate through life in Japan on English and a few Japanese buzz words and often used phrases…and they’re mostly right, if they’re headed for someplace like Tokyo, or my beloved Yokohama. In the countryside, not so much…

I did slip some insights into the challenges you’ll likely face here, as it pertains to language, into that post, and these I’m pretty proud of and continue to stand by. Such as:

“The Japanese, in general, do not care whether you study or speak Japanese, I’ve learned. I used to think it was because they considered their language a dead, dying or useless one. I later learned that, in fact, in most cases, the assumption is that we foreigners do not or cannot learn their language. Why? From what I could gather they believe that our foreign brains are too limited to handle such a complex language as theirs; accustomed, as our brains are, to the simplicity of (in the case of English speakers) a 26-letter alphabet and what not. So, of course we are forgiven well in advance for not even attempting to accomplish the virtually impossible. No offense taken. We understand. They’ll dish out offenses like these in heaping bowlfuls. And, I used to believe they were aware of how offensive this position is. It spurred me to study harder and prove them wrong, so I’m kind of glad I misunderstood.

But, you know what? They are oblivious….really…I’m not kidding, and I’m not exaggerating or defending Japanese. To them, obviously, Japanese is more complicated than English…I mean, look at Kanji compared to the alphabet. Those simplistic stick figures we use to make words as opposed to those perplexing pictograms they use. And, obviously that means that Japanese brains are more complex than Foreigners’. Obviously moisture collects in the atmosphere and falls to the earth in the form of rain or snow. And obviously E equals MC squared.”

Yep. it was true 4 years ago, and it’s true now.

So, for this re-mastered list of tips I’m going to forgo this bit of superfluous verbiage and replace it with a tip that did not make it onto the original tip list because I wasn’t in a place where I could advise this at that time.

But, I’m ready now…I’ve lived and learned.

The majority of the foreigners (from the west, that is) you’ll meet in Japan will be language teachers. Most of the people here I’d call associates spend a good portion of their lives cramming Western thoughts into Japanese minds via their mother tongue. Why? Well, for the most part, you don’t need an advanced degree in Education, or any particular certification or accreditation…or even Japanese ability. Just a university degree (if that) and come from a country where the language you want to teach is known to be the national language. In other words, it’s the simplest way to get a working visa to stay in Japan.

That’s all well and good if you plan to stay here for the short haul…a year or two, at most. Beyond that, unless you have a love for the profession of teaching and get your rocks off actually getting paid to do what you love, the longer you stay here the more you’ll see the necessity of tip #3.

The Talking Heads explained it pretty well in this little eighties ditty:

Before you know it days become months become years, private students come and go, those cute first-year junior high school kids you adored are coming to visit you and thank you, for they’re headed to some prestigious university like Waseda or Keio or Columbia and, as you stand there smiling, inferring from their implications that you played a critical role in their success, you also try to figure out if this visit was a Japanese obligation like the souvenirs your co-workers (many of whom haven’t said two words to you in English or Japanese in three years) bring you back from their vacations, or is it genuine, because, frankly, you barely recognize the kid; but you decide to accept this gratitude as genuine because otherwise what the fuck are you doing besides letting the days go by???

Or, the student was just in the neighborhood, walking down Memory Lane (which just happens to be the address where you spend eight hours a day imploring kids — only half of which are paying you any mind — to “repeat after me”) and popped in to say, “Hi!” to the Japanese teachers they remember fondly, yet act all awkward around you because, well, they’re proper adults now and that’s what Japanese adults do: act all awkward around you.

And you might ask yourself “Am I making the most of my life? Or just serving time?”

You might answer, “Yes Sirree Bob! I am where I belong. This is what I’ve always wanted. To live abroad in an exotic country and teach exotic children my exotic (to them) language, and assimilate (as much as they’ll let me) into a new culture and communicate in a new language and have cute/handsome foreigners fawning over me (or knocking each other over to avoid being near you), responding to stereotypes about you that precede you wherever you go, even lying sometimes just to see the look on their faces: Hiphop? What’s that? Can I dunk? No, but I’m one heck of an equestrian! My horse could probably dunk!” etc…

If so, then you, my friend, have a life!

If not, you best do yourself a favor and get a life, for doing so is crucial to not only keeping perspective but truly, sanely, making the most of your time here.

Maybe you’re saying to yourself, this new tip is as obvious as the original tip #3, Learn that Japanese.

Perhaps it is…to some. It wasn’t obvious to me.

I mean, until you’ve been here for a while and see for yourself how easy it is to fall prey to the predatory zeitgeist where being polite, overly tolerant, not rocking the leaky boat you’re sailing in, or going against the contaminated grain, is valued over truth and humanitarian reciprocity, to simply serve time with a smile that reflects the plasticity of the smiles around you… until then, it’s not exactly a hellish existence at all. For most of the guys here, at least, it doesn’t even look like a rut. Sure, you’re not getting rich but, between teaching in a public school or Eikaiwa and a handful of private students or other various side gigs utilizing English you can get easily here (for example, you can be a mock man of the cloth and pastor weddings — Japanese don’t give a shit about christianity, — if your Japanese is up to snuff, translating documents, interpreting, hell, I’ve had Japanese clients who pay well just to have me pretty up their English on emails…) you’re making enough money to handle your expenses, get your groove on in the weekends, even save a little, if you’re so inclined or don’t have student loans to pay off. And you got enough girls giggling around you to keep you well sated and feeling like (and, from afar, even looking like ) THE MAN!

If you are an unambitious, uncreative person, shit…you could do worse.

No, the rut that Japan offers is not entirely revolting, especially when compared to other places.

It all depends on what you want out of life, what you feel to be the best use of the time you have on this planet, and how many stanzas do you intend to add to the epic.

For me, life is empty and serves no purpose without creativity…whether it’s writing, or photography, or even doing the study and research necessary to excel at those endeavors, I try to stay in a constant state of creativeness…even with my choice of friends My closest friend in these parts, DJ Ronin, will soon establish himself as the best DJ in Japan and perhaps beyond (Peep his groove here). My other close friend is a kickass marketing maven for a huge company in Tokyo. A third runs a bakery with his wife out here in Kanagawa, producing sweets that would bend your ears back. Hell, even my girl is a talented writer, approaching 50000 words on her first novel. And, the list goes on. I’m drawn to people who are putting their creativity to work, making time serve them and not vice versa.

It took me a while to actually make time serve me. I was stuck (unbeknownst to be, I thought I was having fun) in that servile state described in the above passages for a long time. It was Don King who said that during his years in Jail (IMO a metaphor for life without a creative outlet) for manslaughter he’d had “an epiphanous experience of pure religiosity.” (As only Don can put it.) I too had — not to over nor understate this — an epiphany. One that inspired and uplifted me, and if you’ve read my book, then you know how this inspirational moment compelled me to write, and get even more creative than I was before coming to Japan.

Don King may not be the most savory character, but wisdom can be gleaned from some unlikely sources sometimes. He gave us all some words to live by:

“I didn’t serve time. I made time serve me!” Don King

Thanks, Don

Click Here for Tip #4.



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22 Responses to ““10 Ways…” Re-Mastered #3: Don’t Serve Time, Make Time Serve You!”

  1. Eddie 27 November 2012 at 2:26 pm Permalink

    A very good read, as always.

    • Locohama 27 November 2012 at 3:26 pm Permalink

      Thanks Eddie! Glad you enjoyed it (-:

  2. Will 27 November 2012 at 5:13 pm Permalink

    “If you are an unambitious, uncreative person, shit…you could do worse.” -Loco

    It’s just that for the ambitious and, god forbid, creative – there are those voices that seem to be telling us we are shit, implying through ridicule that we should be doing worse and that we should be thankful. Or, at least that we’d better hurry up and dig into that steaming pile of what the elephant left… wouldn’t want it to get cold.

    Kudos to Loco and they who call it like it is. As for those who are salivating over that steaming pile of unearned praise, I say, “Be my guest.”

    Now, it looks like there are a few leaks to be plugged and a number of boats to be rocked.

    • Locohama 28 November 2012 at 3:50 pm Permalink

      Thanks as always Will…Yeah, That Michael Guest character is something else!

  3. Chris 27 November 2012 at 9:03 pm Permalink

    I have to agree with you wholeheartedly with this. I’ve spent a bit of time in Japan and have to admit, I was one of those people that when I first came to Japan didn’t spend time learning the language. My excuse was at the time “I don’t want to sound like a text book, so I want to learn by listening and repeating what I heard”. I’ll be the first to tell anyone just landing on the rock, study, learn it. Over the years, yes now I’m able to hold business level conversations, general conversations, or just down right cuss someone out, but for the amount of time I’ve been here.. I should have so much more at my disposal, like better reading and writing….and not getting tripped up sometimes by things that are …very basic. In short, I didn’t let the time serve me.

    I’ve grown a lot though in the years and I like to think that now I am actually making the time serve me. I better, I’ve been here for a long haul and will most likely be here even longer.

    • Locohama 28 November 2012 at 3:40 pm Permalink

      Good for you, man! I got fairly proficient in Japanese and then gave up. Decided I had better things to do with my time and energy then waste it on these people. But I regret not hanging in there, occassionally. Thanks for the shout!

      • Chris 1 December 2012 at 12:00 pm Permalink

        I think we are in the same boat there, “fairly proficient” but you probably did it the right way of actually learning some of the reading/writing. I survive today but know I should be so much better. I know what you mean about not wanting to waste your time on these people. Some of the funniest conversations I’ve had are the ones where I start in Japanese and they then all of a sudden don’t understand Japanese either. Now I know what everyone reading this will think… “you must not be saying it correctly!”. No, that’s not it, there are times when you can square off with a Japanese person and in order to ensure they understand what you are saying you decide, I’ll just have this conversation in Japanese. Their reaction…. “eh~”.

        • Locohama 1 December 2012 at 4:50 pm Permalink

          Hey Chris! I have a theory on why that occurs which I’m going to alaborate on in this series on some point or other..but as a minor spoiler: I think that Japanese fluency for the westerner IN SOME CASES is equivalent to a type of corruption. And if you’re brain hasn’t undergone this corruption yet, your “Japanese”retains too much of its foreigness. Until you get comfortable with broad shameless stereotyping (and this process is much easier for some than others)and an utter lack of specificity your Japanese will suffer (-; Just a theory. Thanks for the shout!

  4. Jenny 27 November 2012 at 11:31 pm Permalink

    Oh god, I got that same BS during my time there. I spoke natural native English just once to a lady who complemented me on my Japanese, but she used English. She felt really small when I spoke native English to her and she didn’t understand a word of it. After that, I figured that Japanese people have their heads up their asses and I will be learning and speaking their language whether they like it or not.

    Every day I had my dictionary out and was looking up kanji to get the meaning. I could actually navigate my way around better than my ex-boyfriend or female friend.

    I’m curious though of why they’re so bad at English? If they assume English to be easier than Japanese, they should be better at it.

    • Locohama 28 November 2012 at 3:37 pm Permalink

      Who knows…I know people back in the states who are really bad at English, to. Painfully, embarassingly so… And some of my students here are pretty good (thanks in part to me, I tell myself in the spirit of “I’m doing something productive here) lol Some people got it some don’t. Thanks for the shout Jen!

  5. Dochimichi1 28 November 2012 at 10:19 pm Permalink

    Great read, as usual. Love the quote!

    • Locohama 30 November 2012 at 9:50 am Permalink

      Thanks DM! Just trying to rectify a few things (-:

  6. Rude Boy Abroad 30 November 2012 at 9:30 am Permalink

    “If you are an unambitious, uncreative person, shit…you could do worse.”

    Hey, that’s not completely fair. I’m sure you didn’t mean it this way, but it ends up sounding like you’re ripping on people who have decided to make a life out of teaching. For some people teaching is a calling and a passion, whether it be English, astrophysics or Bengalese history.

    • Locohama 30 November 2012 at 9:49 am Permalink

      I know it was hard to catch cuz it was kind of a short paragraph but I said “That’s all well and good if you plan to stay here for the short haul…a year or two, at most. Beyond that, unless you have a love for the profession of teaching and get your rocks off actually getting paid to do what you love, the longer you stay here the more you’ll see the necessity of tip #3.” you probably missed it. Anyway it would be totally careless of me being that my one of my role models and mentors is an educator. But Rest assured that I hold the profession of teaching, even here in Japan, in the highest regard, higher in fact than the country that produced me (-; and thanks for the shout as always yo!

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